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Leave the Porch Light On.

Posted Wednesday, March 21, 2012, at 6:27 PM

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Welcoming Cousins At Thanksgiving.
After thousands of words, ideas and memories, I run the risk of repeating myself from time to time. This past weekend, I made a quick and exhausting trip to attend my cousin Brett's Memorial.

Brett had a lot of friends in additional to his large extended family. Most of our family had to leave the open house after an hour or so due to time constraints and long distance traveling.

But a steady stream of people stopped in to hug the family and to share pictures and memories of Brett and what he meant to them.

Having the opportunity to hug and greet my cousins; siblings, aunts, uncles and mother has become more precious than gold to me. I come away from each visit feeling blessed and loved.

Life has a way of getting your attention during the times that a person assumes that their loved ones will be around forever, that your parents will never grow old or sick. And most of all, that people your own age will not die.

Three simple words that make such an impact on a person's heart; "I Love You." Two words that can keep a person going when they have run out of their own strength. "I Care."

And One Word that can divide us all: "You". It implies a finger wagging in your face. An Accusation or Insult.

Add another word like Liberal: Right Wing, Racist, Idiot, Wing-Nut, Repugs, Democraps or Morons and a fight is sure to break out. Injuries will occur and feelings will be hurt.

Sigh! I am as guilty as anyone else at times in getting carried away with the desire of making my opinions known.

So then, there is another two words that mend a friendship, a marriage or a chance encounter." I'm Sorry."

The madness of the world is causing all of us pain. No one hurts more than the other. Our woes can be directed straight back to choices that we have all personally made during our lifetime. Sometimes, we get caught in the crossfire of someone's choice.

No rock that has ever been thrown into the water has left behind a calm surface. Every living thing be affected in some way by the force and impact of the rock touching the surface of the water.

The Porch Light is our beacon to a type of peace that we all seek. Is your porch light in need of a new bulb? Do you have moths and bugs circling around waiting to pounce? Is your light dim or bright?

For our loved ones and friends, The Porch Light signals an expectation of a cherished visit. The visitors who come to our front door are welcomed and invited in.

For those who seek to do us harm, the porch light signals exposure to their intentions and chances are, they will go to the next dark house on the street.

How bright does your porch light shine? Today, mine was in need of repair and a little TLC. I hurt someone's feelings by not choosing my words as carefully as I should have.

No matter what the other person has said or done, I am responsible for my own words and behavior. I cannot gloat or jab just because someone else did it first. I cannot and should not Ever join in the fray to cause chaos or dissension.

When I write my blogs, I am speaking to myself as much as I am trying to speak to others. I know that I may sound a little saccharine, but my journey to being a better person, friend, wife, mother and grandmother is important to me.

It might not be the path that anyone else will choose for themselves and I respect that.

Leaving the Porch Light On is a personal choice. Just as the style of your porch light or type of bulb that you wish to use. Opportunities abound for us all, if we can just get beyond this stretch of darkness surrounding us today.


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Very well said Bonnie.

-- Posted by royincaldwell on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 7:28 PM

Excellent blog Bonnie. It has also made me think to about the need to have MY opinion known. I'll have my porch light on more brightly

Thx!

-- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 7:30 PM

thank you. I am not sure why I got so cranky these past few days. I needed to put my thoughts into perspective.

-- Posted by KH Gal on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 8:04 PM

Buckshot61:

We are all very concerned with what is happening to our country. The biggest thing is that we not call each other names or assume that a person will have a certain behavior because of their political views or religious views.

As I have said before, we can get our point across without wounding someone or insulting them. If you are riding a horse that runs back to the barn, there isn't much chance that you can change the outcome with a few well-placed kicks or hitting them between the ears with a 2x4.

No matter what gets said on these blogs, we are all Americans. Some of us live on one side of the road and the others on the opposite side of the road.

Life is too short to keep expecting that the barn bound horse will change its ways.

Knowing what is ahead gives all of us pause for different reasons. Those who deny that the storm is coming will surely drown or be caught in the debris. Those who have been giving the warning call, may or may not survive.

But the real crux of the matter is how you feel about yourself as you look into the mirror? Were you direct without attacking a person's character, did you respectfully disagree without making a personal slur?

We now know how the all of the horses behave in the corral. They won't be any different tomorrow, but it is your choice as to whether you will be different in your methods of communication.

We see the damage, but who fell asleep on the watch when the wolves crept into the horse pen? We simply allowed the greed and selfishness to continue far too long.

I really care about all of the people who comment on these blogs. Some may irritate me beyond measure, but like I keep saying personal accountability is key to getting us out of this mess.

Lastly, Roy will recognize this; "Let Go and Let God".

-- Posted by KH Gal on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 8:49 PM

Amen

-- Posted by royincaldwell on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 9:04 PM

People will always choose to be wicked. These days there are more of them than the good guys. I want to fight for my country too and stand up for what is right.

My approach is just different than yours. Our enemy is not the person that you see across the road, but the unseen hand of persuasion that keeps stirring the mix.

If you are a Christian, you will know who I mean. We are not fighting the enemies that we can see, but those who lurk in the darkness with silken cords.

I understand where you are coming from completely, but it just isn't my way to communicate. I respect your opinion, but I don't always respect your methods.

Likewise several others who comment. So I guess as we go into battle, I am probably the one who gets to carry the tent instead of the flag.

-- Posted by KH Gal on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 9:42 PM

Hang in there, both of you. I highly respect both of your views.

Keeping reading keeps us friends, I believe

-- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Mar 21, 2012, at 9:58 PM

Thank you guys, Buckshot and Bonnie, for your heartfelt comments. You are both patriots and both love your country and that's what matters.

-- Posted by Second Wind on Thu, Mar 22, 2012, at 10:59 AM

Well done, Bonnie Bird.

I really appreciate and heartily agree with your definition of the misuse of "You...(fill in the blank) as a destroyer of dialogue.

-- Posted by junkyard dog on Fri, Mar 23, 2012, at 5:53 PM

It is a hard habit to break. Thank you for the compliment.

-- Posted by KH Gal on Sat, Mar 24, 2012, at 7:46 PM


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Fixing fence is the one of the hardest jobs on a ranch. I no longer live on a ranch, but I do know what hard work is. Fences are everyone's concern, but nowadays,the "hole" is always your neighbor's side not your own. It used to be that you would respect your neighbor and mend the fence together. If their cows got in your field, a simple phone call resolved the problem. You might even saddle up your own horse and help them gather them up. We need more people who are willing to roll their sleeves up and fix the fence regardless of who your neighbor is. There are people in this country who need to be reminded that a fence is like the way you should conduct your life. Your posts should be straight and neat. The wire needs to be stretched tight and your gate might be closed, but can still be easily opened. And most of all, we can all saddle up together and ride the range, it won't matter if you have an Appaloosa, Quarter Horse or Thoroughbred. The cows still have to be gathered, fences have to be fixed, and the range is a wide open space of opportunity for us all.
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