I'm having a hard time understanding something and maybe some of our readers would like to take a shot at this one. The more you read the papers, local and national, the more you read about children dying at the hands of the mothers' boyfriend. i.e. Mother goes to work for eight hours, comes home to find her baby unresponsive and the boyfriend is either sleeping or gone. Mom decides to wait until boyfriend comes back to determine what happened to her child. I'm sorry but that doesn't make any sense to me. I have a hard time understanding how women can leave their children with the boyfriend of the week, month or sometimes year. These men should be going to work also. Alot of them do not work, they wait for the women to bring it home to them. I'm not trying to dump on women having boyfriends, but give me a break, if you just met the guy two months ago and he moved in with you and your child a week ago, do you really trust him to stay home and have the patience it requires to handle a sick baby, grouchy toddler, or potty training? No way, it's not what he wanted dumped in his lap, he just wanted the woman not the baggage. So he gets rid of the baggage (child) and waits to see what the mother is going to do. If mom doesn't report it the minute she even thinks its happening, then the guy is pretty sure that he has gotten away with it.

I realize there are alot of good men out there, who have lived with or married woman who have children, but lets face it, they are among the minority. I think it's great if your man is able to become an instant loving and caring daddy. But for every one, there are at least 3 who are not, and they are the ones that get the attention. Perhaps, there are some readers who have been blessed with the loving, caring guy who is able to handle what the woman has on her plate. Maybe you'd like to tell us, just how great he is. I would welcome any feedback about how your guy made it in "instant daddyhood"