Happy Birthday Arlene, Missing youPosted Wednesday, March 9, 2011, at 11:19 AM
I've mentioned my sister before. I thought a birthday blog would be appropriate for her also.
Arlene was born Feb 11, 1957. This summer, we'll have been without her for 4 years. She had an older sister, and me, her baby sister. As a family, we were always close, but I think maybe closer than most. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've always felt like we had a great family life, full of fun and love. We have a brother also. The 4 of us had great times wherever we went. Dad was in the military, but he retired on MHAFB when I was 9-10, so really we called Mountain Home home. Of the 4 of us, she was the only red head. And let me tell ya, it was red. We other 3 were towheaded as can be, and got more that way in the sun. She got redder!
My 2 older sisters were always more "lady like" than I ever thought of being....and I certainly meant to keep it that way. Arlene was a good mother type of sister. She helped my Mom with the house and loved cooking. I remember one year my Dad said we should get her a Mother's Day present too. huh? But like a mother, she also had the ability to lay 'one on ya' if she felt you needed it. And she often felt you needed it.
When we/she got older, she grew some amazingly sharp fingernails. So, now she had a handful of weapons, and she knew how and wasn't afraid of using them on you. I was then much like I am now with those that I love, and I goaded and teased, and got skinned nearly dead a few times. You know when you play with a cat, if you just don't pull away, it might not scratch? That didn't work with her, she knew your thought process.....so eventually, you'd try to get away, and that was worse. Oh, the memories I cherish.
She and Ardie were good in high school, making it hard when Jerry and I got there (teachers were a bit surprised) and were so apparently different in my parents' eyes. They got used to it though, since we were what we were.
Then she went to the University of Idaho. Moscow was an awakening for her. She came home and was so much fun! Til she'd go back after Christmas break, and steal my cloths that I specifically said "Don't take this one! see?????? Don't take it!!!!" She took it.
She became a Horticulturist. And she could grow things. Anything. Everything. But really, what were ya gonna do with that? She eventually wound up in Engineering in the Barrick mines in Elko.
She and I remained fast friends....and she helped me find my wedding dress....plan for babies....helped me thru the loss of my daughter.... and loved mine and Ardie's children. She was an incredibly strict Aunt at times, and Ardie and I both though, "Man, when she has children, we might feel sorry for them!"
She was a corporate woman in the Corporate offices of Circle K for years, then she met Orie Noble, and had her first son Audie, 9 months before I had my last son, Joey. I have always believed that Audi was the absolute "1st Love of Her Life" From the moment he was born, she became a different woman. This strict tough Aunt of my children, fell in love with that baby, and it was hopeless from that moment on. She could never say "No" to him,..... and then Maggie was born about 2-3 years later, and she was an Angelic cherub that none of us could say "no" to. Especially Arlene. She tried all their lives to give them whatever she could.
Sometimes I think that things like this are no mistake. I don't think she "Knew" she wasn't going to be here..... but......
Maggie was about 6-7 when Arlene was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in the 4th Stage. She was advised to "Make her plans" and pretty much that was it. Well, she was nothing if she wasn't a fighter, fingernails and everything in her came out, and she fought like a Lioness for her cubs. She and I & Ardie spent countless hours at MSTI in Boise and St Lukes. (A whole nuther blog should be written about those special people) for the first year. Her strength became something that mystified me. It was like a puzzle. How did she do it? I swear I never heard her complain, or really even wonder why me? (Inside I must have done enough for everyone, so she apparently didn't need to) After a year of intensive treatment, she was pronounced "clean". Hallelujah! She had 'beat the odds'
A month later, it was back with a vengeance. She just stepped up to the plate and kept on doing what she needed to do. We did treatments and shopped and got to know one another better and better. I learned to respect her even more and more. This was an incredible woman, was all I could ever conclude. She only continued to amaze us all.
Her Children were the Lights of her Life, and she just kept going for them. Years continued to go by, and so much in our lives changed. Ardie and I got divorced within a year of each other. Jobs changed, and all of our children were growing up. What remained thru it all, was her phenomenal strength, her Love for her Children. Her body betrayed her, and physically, she weakened. We lost bits of her along the way. She had surgeries .... and she kept going.
About 5 years ago, she and I were alone and talking, and I'd asked how she did it, and never complained. She gasped thru the fluid in her lungs to me "I'm so grateful" She was having a hard time breathing, and it was a few moments before she could go on. While I waited, I thought "she's grateful??????" I was stupefied. When she was able to go on....she said "I never thought I'd see my kids grow up, and do the things I've seen them do. Never thought I'd see them finish school. And I feel like I'd so much rather do this, than they have to go thru it" Again, she was a mother to the core. She'd met so many wonderful people, and she appreciated each and every one of them. It made me also realize, that she knew the battle was not going to go on forever. In her mind, she may have now been going on borrowed time.
Thru everything, she never missed a family function, not a single birthday, wedding, baby shower..... nothing. We shopped for wigs and hats, and eventually said the hell with it. She'd earned her badge and gave up the wigs that were hot and uncomfortable.
She headed up a "Relay for Life" in Elko..... and did a good good job of it. When "Relay for Life" first came to Mountain Home, it was natural for me to be on the Board of Directors, so I did. She came to the 1st one, and was at the Survivor Dinner .... My heart sang.
The summer of 2007 was a year that my entire family just "got thru" tho Arlene smiled and encouraged us all ...and it was her that often told us it would be OK. Parents should never say Goodbye to their Children. I'll never forget the pain in their eyes, while they watched and loved her.
There were times in the middle of the night, that I'd hold her shoulders and pray for her to have Peace. Pray to let it end. Then I'd beg to keep her..... and pray for peace. I don't know what it is, but there is something special that exists in certain people that they just get stronger while others of us get weaker. I spent one of the last nights with her in the hospital, and she finally told me she was scared. She didn't know how to 'stop' but she was tired and she knew it was time. Her family was in Elko, and we called them that day to come to her..... and even then, when those kids walked in that room, her eyes lit up like the sun was behind them. She spent that day and night with them, and left us July 12, 2007.
The first Thanksgiving I was pretty sure I couldn't do it. I did. It was my daughter Katie that told me that Arlene wouldn't be happy with me for being so consumed with the sadness. Without such a vital part of our family, it just didn't seem/feel good to smile and be happy. I have of course come to realize, (Katie was right) she wouldn't have wanted me to linger on unhappiness, and would have probably have used her fingernails as punishment. Lesson Learned.
I'm so happy now that she has her Peace and that she has a Grand daughter that is the spitting image of her. And Autumn is a spitfire, who's gonna give Maggie a run for her money. And I'm gonna help Autumn do what she wants, cuz Arlene would have wanted it that way.
Happy Birthday Arlene, We think of you always.
Obviously, a Girl Scout
Her Senior Picture, MHHS Class of '75
Visiting my grandparents in Nampa
With Maggie as a baby
About 8 Years ago, loving Maggie
Last Summer, Autumn
Maggie and Autumn
Arlene Noble, summer of 2007
One is Arlene, One is Autumn
Care to Guess?
Happy Birthday, We Love and Miss you.
P.S. Today Arlene's son is having his 1st Baby. As of publishing time, baby has not arrived. I'm sure without doubt, that pictures will follow.
Update 3/9/11 9:00 Sammie Arlene was born today to Arlene's son.
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