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Sharing the Beauty
Jessie Miller

Happy Birthday Arlene, Missing you

Posted Wednesday, March 9, 2011, at 11:19 AM
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  • Jessie

    What a beautiful story. It made me cry. I know all about fingernails!!! my younger sister had them. It's hard to say goodby and there is always a little ache. But we are better people for having such courageous people in our lives.

    -- Posted by KH Gal on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 1:30 PM
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    I hated those fingernails early on....but I wish for them now.... seems so funny now, looking back.

    Yes, we all learn from people like her.

    Thanks for your comment.

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 1:41 PM
  • Yes, you made me cry too...

    I miss my sweet sister terribly.

    -- Posted by Ardie on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 9:06 PM
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    I know you do..... I'm sure we both lay in bed, thinnking of her....and sometimes I think "I can't wait to tell her........." And then I remember. I even said to Wayne once last year..."I can't wait to....." and stopped dead. Was meaning to have them meet. She'd have loved him too. I'm sure she knows how I feel.

    She was a great sister, just like you

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 9:12 PM
  • What a tribute to our lovely daughter..She will live on in our memory, thanks

    -- Posted by The Elders on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 9:23 PM
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    She was lovely because of you.

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 9:35 PM
  • That's so beautiful Jessie, what an awesome tribute to Arlene. Made me cry. Also made me grateful once again to be part of such a wonderful family

    -- Posted by justjessie on Wed, Mar 9, 2011, at 10:35 PM
  • She is so beautiful.

    It's so interesting to see you write of her in your younger years.

    I have tears streaming down my face.

    -Katie

    -- Posted by ktlm on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 6:23 AM
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    Katie and Jess, you two are the best daughters I could ever have.

    Thank you for being mine

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 8:49 AM
  • Great writing! Thanks for sharing the beautiful story of your sister. ILY

    -- Posted by idpotatoes83647 on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 9:01 AM
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    ahhhh.... my other daughter from another Mother.

    Thanks and ILY too!

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 9:07 AM
  • What a wonderful sister you are to write this tribute for your sister Arlene. Keep sharing Jessie.

    -- Posted by gfhorses on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 1:13 PM
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    Thanks K, I appreciate that

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 1:43 PM
  • Beautiful tribute, Jessie. We are both sitting here crying our eyes out. We miss her so much!

    -- Posted by JerryDori on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 9:23 PM
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    Thanks Jerry & Doreen ...love you two

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Thu, Mar 10, 2011, at 9:43 PM
  • jessie

    your photos are fantastic, but your story is even better. i am constantly at amazed about sig and his family

    love art und carola

    -- Posted by artundcarola on Sat, Mar 19, 2011, at 5:49 PM
  • Jessie,

    I did not realize you lost Arlene. I am so sorry!! You wrote an amazing story, and I agree with you; your family is awesome. I went and saw Katie at work today. I had brain surgery two weeks ago and was cut ear to ear. She did not run away screaming! Instead, she was very caring and understood how self-conscience I felt with a big scar and missing some of my hair. Katie was able to cut and style my hair in a way that not only looks great, it also gave me back some confidence. She was so kind and caring and not afraid to touch me although she was scared of hurting me. Of course she did not hurt me, but instead, for the first time in months I did not have a headache after she massaged my scalp. She is an amazing woman and you should be very proud of her. I know I am!!

    Liz

    -- Posted by avidreader on Tue, Mar 29, 2011, at 2:31 AM
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    Avidreader, I only just now read this comment. We have to get together soon and do dinner as we've talked.

    Katie called me immediately after your visit with her and was nearly over come by her emotion over your distress. She had felt at a loss to do enough for you and wanted to do so much more. I'm ashamed to say that I somehow had missed that you had had to have surgery, and was so happy that she told me.

    She is truly an amazing woman, mother and nurturer. I couldn't be more proud of her. A few days later she was doing my hair and was talking about how brave you are again.... I reached out and patted her leg as she stood next to me, and was again struck by this wonderful woman I am proud to have raised.

    Thanks for your comment! Love you very much

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Apr 6, 2011, at 8:36 AM
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    Uncle Art, you and I both are lucky to be part of such a family. Thank you for being you!

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Wed, Apr 6, 2011, at 10:20 AM
  • A wonderful remembrance, Jessie. It's written as only you could have written! :)

    -- Posted by Snoshu2000 on Tue, Jul 12, 2011, at 3:04 PM
  • Darn! You always make me cry. You capture Arlene so well. Love, Ardie

    -- Posted by Ardie on Tue, Jul 12, 2011, at 6:26 PM
  • Earlier this year I was told that Arlene didn't appreciate me, and that she wouldn't like it if Audie and I named our daughter after her. I beleived it for the past few months, but after reading this I've come to a completely different conclusion, so thank you, Jessie for sharing the real Arlene with us. Arlene was an all-around amazing person, sick or not. She still inspires me to this day. Sammie Arlene is now four months old, and her older sister, Sydney, will be three in November. Although Sydney isn't biologically her granddaughter, I know Arlene loves and watches over her just the same. I am proud to say that some day Arlene would have been my mother-in-law, and I wouldn't have chosen anyone else for the part. Some of you may think I have no business saying what I have, but I love her, and she's important to me, and no matter what her memories and pictures will ALWAYS be a part of our home. For recent pictures of Audie's girls feel free to visit my facebook link below! :)

    http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2223344227482.131195.1364022297

    http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.2223344227482.131195.1364022297

    -- Posted by ilas on Fri, Jul 15, 2011, at 1:00 PM
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    ILAS, I have not had the opportunity to get to know you, but I'll tell you something without a shadow of a doubt. Arlene could at times seem gruff but there was not a bone in her body that wanted to be unkind to anyone. She never told me a harsh word about you.

    Her children's happiness was all that mattered and if you help make Audi a happy man .....then she'd walk thru fire for you.

    I know Audi is working thru his own "Devils" and I'm thankful you're there for him.

    Arlene is watching closely both your girls and she will never cease. Don't you ever doubt that.......they'll be part of what keeps her Legacy alive. Some day you can tell them about their Grandma who would have given her life for them, and who in her own way, felt she had, (and never regretted it once)

    Was trying to think what ILAS stood for you I guess you I came up with "I Love Arlene's Son"

    Honor her and your beautiful daughters by doing her proud ......can you imagine her joy at that?

    Jessie

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Mon, Jul 18, 2011, at 8:02 AM
  • Lol, you got the "I love Arlene's son" part right :)

    -- Posted by ilas on Mon, Jul 18, 2011, at 10:08 AM
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    Always remember everyone has an opinion. Don't let what you may perceive as negative .....always turn it around to positive.

    I myself have been tough on Audi, and angry, .......I'd like to think in an effort to expect more from him.

    The fact is that I love him and always will.....but I won't ever agree or lie to him all nicey if I don't mean it.

    Arlene wants this family to be strong and DO WHAT IT TAKES NO MATTER HOW HARD OR IMPOSSIBLE IT SEEMS.

    J

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Mon, Jul 18, 2011, at 10:19 AM
  • Hi Jessie,

    So sorry to hear about your loss--I lost my oldest sister in August of this year--she took her own life--and it's been very difficult.

    I'm glad you had so much time with her before she died. She sounds like a wonderful person.

    Fran A.K.A. Horsegirl62! :)

    -- Posted by horsegirl62 on Tue, Feb 11, 2014, at 4:00 PM
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    Thank you, Fran

    -- Posted by jessiemiller on Tue, Feb 11, 2014, at 4:02 PM
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